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Symphony For Happiness 2019 – Update! I’m Back!

After a 1 year gap in posting…I’m back!

What will Symphony For Happiness in 2019 look like? Up until now, I’ve written about experimenting to find alternatives ways of doing things that make sense to me, hoping that if they make sense to you too, reading this could give you an idea for change, or simply help you feel like you’re not the only one. I’ve written about running out of money on purpose, in my £0 Challenge, travelling only by fixed gear bike during my One Gear Year, living as a Digital Nomad Skype Tutor in a VW T4 van, Minimalism and anti-consumerism, and many other experiences that I consider part of my Symphony For Happiness.

Everything I’ve done in my own life has been because I’m interested in challenging all ideas that we take for granted whether their good for us or not, because if they are not good for us then we need to find a different way of doing things. This year, that ethos has led me very naturally into climate campaigning and Extinction Rebellion (XR), as well as being more visible as a gender and LGBTQ+ activist. I’ve also become Bard, and now Grand Bard of Exeter, in which I have taken an oath to the land and the people of the city, and this devotion has made me even more dedicated to the sustainable future of the planet. As well as personal growth, change and empowerment, I’m going to be writing about more of the above this year.

So, here’s a bit of a summary of the story so far, in pictures and videos:

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Here I am performing on the Pink Boat at Oxford Circus, during this years April action for Climate justice, by Extinction Rebellion. Photo by Tony Pletts. See me perform, here: https://www.facebook.com/kimweidotcom/videos/1086225831562887/

My 7 spoken pieces, filmed by Exeter University Television Channel which consider what a sustainable future could be like:

My 7 spoken pieces, explaining climate change through the eyes of a Climate Scientist I lived with from 2013-16 filmed by Exeter University Television Channel:

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“Nothing’s Binary”, my gender and identity themed album, which also features some world change songs, was self-released Dec 2018. I have also appeared on queer discussion panels and given workshops at various festivals including Come As You Are and Exeter Pride, as well as Summerhouse and Togetherness.

 

 

 

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Being sworn in as Grand Bard of Exeter (2019-2025). An extract from my speech:
And so we are in the age of the Bards, 
Because all we have is the sum of our commitments.
We do not have what we own, 
We have what we commit to.
We do not have what we buy
We have what we commit to take care of.
As Bard I have taken an oath to the land and the people of the city, but regardless of who becomes the new Bard tonight we all can go to our own homes and make a commitment to the land below us and the people around us. If we do that, we can all have the Earth, to restore, to nourish and to care for.

So watch this space for more, as I am back and posting!

Kimwei

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Kimwei on BBC Radio Devon’s Pause For Thought: Gender & Non-binary

This week I’m talking about gender, being non-binary and gender stereotyping in a series of Pause For Thoughts for Laura James’ Early Show on BBC Radio Devon. There will be 7 in total, so stay tuned and remember – nothing’s binary.

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Nothing’s Binary: The Song & Beyond

It’s been a few weeks since I’ve posted here, but don’t worry, I’ve been busy producing plenty of other content for you to enjoy in other mediums. Check out the Symphony For Happiness Vlog and Kimwei’s music Youtube to see what I’ve been up to in the last month, including my 7 day vlogging challenge, and plenty of new music videos.

In the past week, this original song which I recorded as a duet with Billy Bottle has been doing really well on Facebook, with over 6k in views and 100 shares. We created the video to co-incide with Exeter Pride (13.05.2017). It’s about being non-binary, but also celebrating LGTBQ+ as a whole. This goes out to anyone who seeks to be seen for who they truly are. When we accept each other, we love each other, and when we love each other we change the world.

We’ve been overwhelmed by the response and thrilled that the message has been so deeply received. We believe that expanding beyond the binary notion of gender is not just relevant to those who identify as trans, but to everyone, because we are all affected by the expectations of a society that sees gender in binary.

Now it’s time to take the phrase “Nothing’s Binary” even further. We want to put on events, entitled “Nothing’s Binary”, which are celebrations the full gender spectrum. We envisage a Post-Binary world in which anyone can freely inhabit any part of that spectrum and be seen, accepted and loved. Please get in touch if you’d like to be involved.

Please do keep sharing this video, whether on Facebook, Youtube, or this post itself. You can also view/share this info through kimwei.com. I’ve created a special “Nothing’s Binary” page at kimwei.com/nothingsbinary

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-Kimwei

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Gendered Clothes – Men’s clothes are boring?

kimwei-beard.jpgIt’s been a couple of years since I’ve been dressing almost exclusively “as male” (but not trying to “pass” as male).  You know what I’ve discovered? Men’s clothes are boring.

Isn’t it weird that clothes are so gendered? Trousers, no longer. A woman wearing trousers is not “cross dressing”, but apparently, a man wearing a skirt is???

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and need I add “everything in-between”?

For those of us who are gender fluid, transgender or who simply don’t want to be defined by stereotypical gender boundaries, clothing and image are effective tools in sending a message about who we are, since they are both visible and instantly communicative.

I’ve two friends especially struggling with this right now, who will go unnamed. One has a female body and the other a male body. My female bodied friend identifies as non-gender-binary, but looks extremely feminine. She rings me up in frustration at trying to express her masculinity through image, whilst being blessed with curves and delicate features.

My friend in a male body is firmly cis-gendered, but thinks women have all the fun in terms of nice clothes. He is very worried about what male friends or potential female partners would think if they saw him dressed in the clothes he really likes, which are stereotypically worn by women. Is he a transvestite? I wouldn’t say so.

In the words of designer and gender-superhero Arian Bloodwood, I would say more that my male bodied friend simply wants to wear clothes that he likes.

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Arian models Charles’ handiwork

My two friends and I all want the same thing – to be perceived as ourselves. Since, in one way or another, we don’t fit within conventional gender boundaries, it’s difficult to work out how to “present” as who we really are.

When my male friend walks out the door in his favourite outfit, some people will see a guy who just looks fabulous and knows how to dress. However he also fears attracting negative attention if perceived as a gay or transvestite by people who view those groups negatively. Essentially, when he dresses as himself, he worries about being seen as someone else entirely.

My NGB trans friend in a female body doesn’t like being seen as a very feminine woman, whilst the masculine part of her goes unnoticed, since she struggles to send the “right” signals through her mode of dress.

But what ARE the right signals? We’re in a strange intermediate phase as a society, where gender boundaries have started breaking down, but they haven’t snapped completely. Dressing as male has helped people to better understand my gender, yes that’s true. But, would I need the label of non-gender-binary transgender if society’s ideas about gender were blown wide open? If that happened each person would meet me as me, without applying a set of parameters to my personality based on the gender of my body? Would I need to “dress as male” then? Probably not.

Kimwei shirt.pngI’ve thought a lot about the signals I send out through image and my decision in a couple of years ago to only wear “what I would wear if I had a male body”. Out went strappy tops, bras, anything that showed midriff or accentuated breast size, and in came tailored shirts, waistcoats and… no that’s all really. Told you men’s clothes were boring. And the truth is, if I really did have a male body, I’d wear dresses skirts and other “female” clothes here and there, because they just look fabulous are great fun!

Male and female bodies and brains are different in some ways, yes. But ultimately, I believe we need to throw out our expectations of what people should be like/should do/should be treated based on the gender of their bodies (or clothes). Only then, will both transgender and cis-gendered people alike be free to express and be accepted as who they are fully. In some parts of the world this is a mortally serious point*.

We can contribute to moving this issue forward by opening up to it on a personal level. Support the cause by cross dressing this Christmas, but don’t call it “cross-dressing”, just call it wearing clothes that you like.

-Kimwei

* Each year Amnesty International run the Write For Rights campaign, which is a wonderful thing. Cases are varied and it’s worth noting that each year there are some cases relating to gender/sexuality. Click here to participate in the campaign.

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